Hey guys, not sure what those glances, smiles and looks from a girl you fancy might mean? Hoping you have a secret admirer? Take a close look at some advice from a girl that may help you tell whether or not a girl likes you.
Signs of Flirting
Sometimes if a girl is flirting, she may be difficult to read. Some girls still flirt with guys that they’ve already put in the friend zone, and for some guys who cannot tell the difference, this can be misconstrued as a crush. So, be aware and get to know how this particular girl acts around guys in general before making any assumptions.
Body language is the best way to tell if a girl is flirting with you. If you are sitting next to each other talking, be aware of what direction her legs are turned towards. If they are turned towards you, that means she’s interested in conversing, or she enjoys your company. Eye contact is also a big tell-tale sign about what a woman may be thinking. If she locks eyes with you for more than a mere moment or throws a little giggle in there and looks downward, she is at least interested in your looks or what you are saying. Also, mind your own body language. If you are into a girl, do not put your arm around another girl or let another girl hug onto you, because the girl you do like will think that she doesn’t mean anything to you and most likely stop trying.
Texting and/or Phone Calls
Sometimes, guys are way too pushy over the phone that it automatically turns a girl off. If you are into a girl, and you want to start a text conversation with her and hold her attention, remember that less is more. Do not over-bare her with words like, ‘baby’ ,‘babe’, ‘sexy’, or ‘love.’ Words like these turn-off most girls when used too soon. Girls subconsciously like the chase and like to earn what they have. If you say too much too soon, she could think that she’s not the only one you act that way towards.
Pay attention to the way a girl talks to you through texts. If she seems open to conversing and engaged in topics, that means she is interested in you or the person that you are. If she answers you with one word answers, and takes a long time to respond, that usually means that she is uninterested in the conversation, and you may even be an annoyance. A girl that is interested in a guy will continue to check her phone, and give you answers and responses that are worthy of continuing the conversation. These points are also valid when making phone calls to a girl.
One definite way you can tell if a girl likes you is to observe her friends. If you see most of her friends glancing back at you and smiling or giggling, this probably means she has told her friends about you and they’re “in the know”. However, mature women and friends tend to behave in a more subtle way, using glances and smiles instead of giggles.
When she is having a conversation with her friends, and you make your way over, she might stop talking all of a sudden. This most likely means that you were the subject of the recently ended conversation.
The Damsel in Distress
When a girl wants more attention from you, she will put herself in a situation where she becomes a damsel in distress. For example, when you are near the girl you like, and she says loudly, “I’m cold!” That’s a subtle hint that she wants you to give up your sweater or jacket for her. She wants to know if you have a sweet and caring side to you. If there are multiple guys around and she seems disappointed when you offer her your jacket, this obviously means that she is uninterested in you, and you need to move on.
Notice the Little Things
If a girl is always there for you when you need help, even when you mention you’re thirsty and she offers you some of her drink, she might just like you. However, do not assume that she likes you just from one experience. What you can do is occasionally ask her for small things, and notice how she reacts. Ask her to borrow a pen, or for some gum. If she is ready to offer you something you might need, this could be an invitation to ask for her help even further. Ask her to help you with something not too easy, and not too difficult. If she is eager to help, she probably likes you, but if you overuse this strategy she might just end up thinking that you’re lazy. Don’t overdo it at the risk of her putting a stop on her pursuit.
If You Think She Likes You, Talk To Her
A lot of girls out there are too shy or nervous to approach a guy and start a random conversation. Even if the girl is the most confident girl of them all, she may have had a bad experience prior to you that may stop her from approaching you. Just suck it up and talk to her!
Finally, and most importantly, guys, avoid over-analyzing or under-analyzing her behavior. If you over-analyze what she does, you may become obsessed with winning her over instead of really getting to know the person she is. If you under-analyze, you may miss out on the signals she is sending you. Don’t invest a ton of time trying to figure out whether she likes you or not. Take the opportunities that are given to you, and take the time to spend with her and her friends, but not too much time. Basically, get to know the girl as a person first and then decide your moves from there. If you like her, make sure your intentions are clear to her, or you may become permanently “friend-zoned”. Hopefully this advice can help you decide on whether a girl is into you or not, and help you with what to do when you find out she is.