Before you open your mouth, remember: conversation is an art. Not everyone can hold a conversation, yet everyone has the ability to. And, if you want to know how to get a girl, you should practice the art of conversation. So, here are a few things to remember when speaking with a girl.

A conversation with a girl can be a game of wit, your ability to relate and timing. Don’t take everything she says too seriously unless, of course you get into a deep conversation. Smile and laugh at her jokes even if they’re not that funny and try to come back with one of your own. Keep the topic of discussion light and talk about right here and right now. When the time is right, slowly move into talking about what you want to do with her later, but keep it clean. No “below the belt” talk… yet.

Common sense says to start off a conversation by introducing yourself, but sometimes, the best thing to do is to behave around girls how you normally would your really good friends. Start off by talking in a relaxed non-aggressive way. If you’re being yourself, you’ll make girls (most of them) feel like they can be themselves too. It never hurts to ask those common questions like, “what do you do for a living?” or “what do you like to do?” These questions are basically stepping stones to more interesting topics of conversation. But, if you want to know how to get a girl, don’t be that creepy Mr. Question guy who seems like he’s conducting an interview.

If you notice that a girl wants to talk about something, stay on that interesting topic by asking more questions. If you’ve talked a topic to death, move on.  Make a joke to avoid falling into the abyss of an awkward silence. Or, use that awkward silence to talk about something new – like your immediate surroundings. Make up a story even.  Just keep the conversation going.

While in the heat of conversation we can forget there are certain things we should never discuss with a hot girl like how much money you make and especially, your ex-girlfriends. If you’re going to talk about yourself, you need to study the girl’s reactions. Does she seem interested? Is she nodding her head and looking at you while you go off talking about yourself? Or, are her eyes wandering? Is she looking at other guys? Is she yawning? Is she resting her head on her fist waiting for you to shut up? We can forget that a conversation involves the cooperation of both people and when one person doesn’t pick up on the gestures and messages that the other person is giving, it can kill a conversation and all your chances of hooking up with that Spring Break girl. So, you want to know how to get a girl using the art of conversation? Pay attention to how she responds to you.

This article is broken down into different sections with advice on how to get a girl: